Everything i love is this bed

Lisa Goich-Andreadis is the author of "14 Days - A Memoir a chronicle of her mother's final journey. Some were recorded with my mom lying alone in her bed, others were recorded with the person at her bedside.

In a sense, this creates the potential for a standoff between the person and their ancient mood system. Without goals to drive future behavior, current behavior becomes frozen for long periods. The intuitive answer is okay as far as it goes. They end up lying in bed because they are overcommitted to goals that are failing badly.

Perhaps some of what I learned can help you through your personal journey:. My dad started the clean-up process, but overwhelmed, woke up my sister and me to help him clean my mom, remove her nightgown and change and wash her bedding.

The seasons feature largely in the book as a mirror of life changes. Almost any activity or task becomes a painful ordeal, even things as simple as taking a shower or getting dressed. "Just let me go to bed.

Eric Clapton Song 1999.

It has not been much tested in research studies. This is why we're here.

Keep an open line of communication with nurses and doctors - If your loved one is receiving hospice care, and is not in a hospital, be sure to have a list of names and numbers to call should you need them. I strained to hear the compressor pumping air into the mattress on my mom's hospital bed in the living room. Love is contagious and is its own antidote.

Go outside and take a walk - breathe in some fresh air. A perfectly able-bodied person can't even bring him or herself to rise out of bed. Coordinate care with nurses, keep doctors in the loop with all communications and don't be afraid to ask questions. Who do you call when you have questions about family, recipes, history, life?

Chronicle it while you can. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Depressed people don't end up in bed because they are undercommitted to goals.

Love - Above all, keep love in your heart throughout the process. Never having children, this was foreign. A mother gently strokes her own belly to soothe her baby's restlessness, watching what she eats and staying away from anything that might harm her child.

No more humiliation having to crap into a bucket in the middle of her own living room. She woke my dad who was sleeping on the couch next to her.